ANGER MANAGEMENT TALK


Talk shorts are the bare bones elements of a talk where I give you an illustration, a few passages, the problem, and point you can make. You fill in, tweak, or takeaway what you like. Enjoy.


THE ILLUSTRATION
There’s a place in Dallas, Texas called the Anger Room. For $25 you get 5 minutes, a bat, and things to destroy. The purpose of the room is to vent. Here’s a talk idea using the video.

I think it would be an unforgettable teaching moment to build an enclosed plywood reinforced room on stage with a camera inside. During a series on anger you could select a student from the audience to get five minutes in the room. The live feed could be shown on screen.
Here are two things I am not saying at all by suggesting this idea and as a teacher you would have to address this. First, destroying property is a good way to vent. Second, that violence is an answer to your problems. In fact, the display could present a backdrop for talking about all of the ways that we deal with anger that are unhealthy. The sheer chaos as an illustration could powerfully reinforce the fact that “if” our volunteer actually had an issue, their outburst solved nothing. They still have the issue so let’s talk about how to deal with things the right way.

Your most rage filled angry student would probably walk away from the series powerfully impacted with the reality that they need to deal with their issues and get real help.
Advisement: Wear protective clothing, helmet, safety goggles, gear, etc.

TALK PURPOSE
Anger is a frequent emotion that visits our lives. The purpose of this talk is to discuss where anger comes from and what the Bible has to says about resolving our pain.

PROBLEM
We live in a world that fuels emotion. You’re encouraged to take action on what you feel without thinking through the consequences. In life you come to moments that emotionally change you and those moments may involve real pain and legitimate hurt. Bottling up those emotions or acting out on the ones we love often winds up causing us even more pain.

POINT
We live in a sin filled world and the fact that God acknowledges the emotion of anger in the Bible gives us the permission to be honest with ourselves and others as we take the hardships in life and rightly communicate with someone about our feelings.

PASSAGES
Ephesians 4:26-31
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. He who has been stealing must steal no longer, but must work, doing something useful with his own hands, that he may have something to share with those in need. Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.

James 1:19-20
My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires.

Proverbs 26:11
A fool gives full vent to his anger, but a wise man keeps himself under control.

TRANSITION TO ILLUSTRATION
Have you ever been so angry that you just wanted to break something? When I was in junior high I struggled with my grades. Every six weeks when my progress report or grades came out I would wait until the last minute to get my mom to sign it. One year I forged her signature. I spent the first semester signing her name so I wouldn’t have to face my problems. When I finally got caught I was so angry with myself that I completely destroyed my room and punched a hole through the wall. My anger came out for days and it was completely misdirected. In life we have to learn how to own up to our mistakes. Anger has a way of consuming us causing us to not see what the real problem is.

(At this point you can either show the video below or recruit someone to step into the anger room. Transition out of the illustration with your lesson.

Recommendation: I have a talk series available at the Stash called “Broken.” Broken helps students deal with pain.

anger image via Kingwood

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2 Responses to “ANGER MANAGEMENT TALK”

  1. Brian LaRue September 27, 2012 at 7:39 am #

    love it, love the creative element. But I what I love more is that is relevant and with help students with the real problem.

  2. chadswanzy September 27, 2012 at 7:40 am #

    Thanks Brian. Anger is always a tough talk.

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